List of Kalyana Mitta Groups

New Durham Kalyana Mitta Group
Our newly formed Durham Kalyana Mitta group is now accepting members. For group details, please see the description below. If you’d like more information or are interested in joining, please send a KM Questionnaire to Sarah Tillis, KM Coordinator, or email Sarah at [email protected].

We currently have four Kalyana Mitta (KM) Groups. Detailed descriptions are below.
– Our Durham and Raleigh groups have openings for new members.
– Our Chapel Hill-Carrboro and Sutta Study groups each have a waiting list.

If you’re interested in joining a group, being on a waiting list, or starting a new group, please send a KM Questionnaire to Sarah Tillis, KM Coordinator at [email protected]. Please also send Sarah any questions or suggestions.

Chapel Hill-Carrboro KM Group: Has a waiting list
Group organizers: Tom Howlett and Sarah Tillis
Group description:
– The intentions of this group are to deepen our understanding of the dharma, develop greater insight into the conditioned patterns that hinder us, and provide inspiration for our daily practice.
– The development of trust and intimacy is essential to this process and to our sharing openly and caringly, including experiences that arise within the group. This will allow us to open our hearts and share our truth with greater wisdom and compassion.
– In our discussions, we follow Triangle Insight’s Mindful Sharing Guidelines, which we read at each meeting.
Format: We begin with a period of meditation, followed by group discussion. Discussions include readings and dharma podcasts, and we explore our practice experiences on and off the cushion.
Attendance:
– While all of us may need to miss meetings from time to time, a commitment to regular attendance is important for group development and process.
– If a member decides not to continue with the group, they will let the group know this. We ask that they consider coming to group to terminate with the group, and we support the member’s doing what will be most helpful for them at that time.
Meeting time:
– While meeting on Zoom, we meet every Sunday morning, 9:30 – 11:00 am.
– When we were meeting in person, we met 1st and 3rd Sunday mornings, 9:30-11:30 am.
Location: We are currently meeting by Zoom. When the group decides it’s safe to return to meeting in person, we will meet in the Chapel Hill-Carrboro area.
Group size: Maximum of 10

Durham KM Group: Has openings
Group organizer: Martin Steinmeyer
Group description:
– Our intentions are for this group to serve as a community of spiritual friends for our members, to support and nourish our daily practice and inspire us to deepen our understanding of the dharma, to develop greater insight into the conditioned patterns that so often bind us, and to explore and share the different paths towards big and small awakenings and to loving and joyful presence.
– Developing trust and intimacy is essential to this process and to our sharing openly and caringly, including experiences that arise within the group. We intend for this to allow us to open our hearts and share our truth with wisdom and compassion.
– In our discussions, we follow Triangle Insight’s Mindful Sharing Guidelines, which we read at each meeting.
Group Format:
– We begin with a brief period of meditation, followed by group discussion on teaching of the dharma. Discussions can be based on readings, dharma talks, dharma podcasts or other sources. Members are invited to share their experiences of integrating the teachings into their practice, as well as their insights and challenges with the teachings and concepts on and off the cushion with each other.
– In addition to our monthly meetings, members of our group are invited to share their practice experiences, their challenges, or questions with the group in between meetings if they feel moved to do so, by e-mail or group chat. If they are interested, members are also invited to share information on additional resources on the selected teachings with the group. The intention is to keep the exchange between our members vibrant and nurturing also in-between our meetings, while keeping in mind wise speech, in the spirit of the TIMC Mindful Sharing Guidelines.
– All sharing during and in-between meetings is considered to be confidential, in keeping with the Durham KM Group Agreements.
Attendance:
– While all of us may need to miss meetings from time to time, a commitment to regular attendance is important for group development and process.
– If a member decides not to continue with the group, they will let the group know this. We ask that they consider coming to group to terminate with the group, and we support the member’s doing what will be most helpful for them at that time.
Meeting time: While meeting on Zoom, we meet every second Sunday of the month, 2:00 pm – 4:00 pm.
Location: We are currently meeting by Zoom. When the group decides it’s safe to return to meeting in person, we will meet in the Durham area.
Group size: Maximum of 8

Raleigh KM Group: Has openings
Group Organizers: Etta Barksdale and Karen Stevens
Group Description and Agreements:
The intentions of this group are to deepen our understanding of the dharma and provide inspiration for our daily practice. This will be supported by the development of trust and intimacy, which will allow us to share more openly and deeply. All those who join should be willing to support the spiritual growth of members of the group. Our KM group operates by these Group Agreements.
Group Format:
– Group meetings include: 20 minutes of meditation; review of Mindful Sharing Guidelines; check-in of “how’s your practice/how’s your life”; dharma discussion based on the group’s chosen piece; and then closing meditation and group business check-in.
– Before joining, new members should be familiar with this format.
Attendance:
While all of us may need to miss meetings from time to time, a commitment to weekly attendance is important for group development and process.
Decision to Leave Group:
If a member decides to leave the group, they will let the group know. We encourage the member to attend KM for a final sit, as a way of honoring the journey we have taken together. However, we support the member’s doing what will be most helpful for them at that time.
Experience Level:
All levels of experience are welcome.
Meeting time and frequency: The group meets weekly on Sunday evening.
Length of each meeting: 2 hours
Location: Raleigh – We’re currently meeting by Zoom.
Group size: Maximum of 14

Sutta Study KM Group: Has a waiting list
Group organizer: Mike Hall
Group administrator: Mike Hall
Group description:
– We are a peer-led Kalyana Mitta group desiring to explore the suttas relevant to early Buddhism, and possibly other Buddhist traditions.
– Our first reading will be The Buddha before Buddhism (aka “The Books of Eights”) by Gil Fronsdal.
Group Format:
– The meeting will start with a short period of meditation and a review of Triangle Insight’s Mindful Sharing Guidelines, followed by open discussion of assigned readings, videos, and talks. The format will evolve as we gain more experience being together.
– This a peer-led group. We will take turns moderating meetings. The group will make decisions collectively on future topics and materials.
Attendance:
– While all of us may need to miss meetings from time to time, a commitment to regular attendance is important for group development and process.
– A member should promptly let the rest of the group know if it’s not possible to continue attending. Direct communication with the group about a decision to discontinue is highly preferred.
Meeting time: The fourth Sunday of each month, 7 pm – 9 pm
Location: Meetings will be by Zoom until further notice.
Group size: 11