List of Kalyana Mitta Groups

New Group Forming: We’re currently forming a Durham Young Adults Kalyana Mitta Group for those in their 20s and 30s. Preliminary details are below.
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We currently have four Kalyana Mitta (KM) Groups, with a fifth group being formed. Detailed descriptions are below. Two KM groups have openings for new members:
– Durham Young Adults
– Insight Dialogue
The following groups have a waiting list:
– Chapel Hill-Carrboro
– Raleigh
– Secular Buddhism: Study Group
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If you’re interested in joining a group, being on a waiting list, or starting a new group, please send a KM-Questionnaire to Sarah Tillis, KM Coordinator at [email protected]. Please also send Sarah any questions or suggestions.
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Durham Young Adults KM Group: Being formed
Group organizer: Emily Burke
Group description:
This group is for young adults in their 20s and 30s. We believe that a Kalyana Mitta group for members in the same phase of life can offer a special community for the spiritual growth of each member and the group as a whole. The intentions include to support our practice and deepen our understanding of the dharma, both “on the cushion” and as it arises in our daily lives. The development of trust and intimacy is essential to this process and will allow us to share more openly and mindfully.
Group Format:
– The group will include a period of meditation and time for discussion. Specific details (e.g., readings or dharma talks; group facilitation) will be determined by the group.
– We will follow Triangle Insight’s Mindful Sharing Guidelines.
Attendance:
– While all of us may need to miss meetings from time to time, a commitment to regular attendance is important for group development and process.
– If a member decides not to continue with the group, the member will let the group know this. We ask that the member consider coming to group to terminate with the group, and we support the member’s doing what will be most helpful at that time.
Meeting time and frequency: To be determined by group members
Length of each meeting: To be determined by group members
Location: Durham
Group size: Maximum of 10
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Insight Dialogue KM Group: Has openings
Group facilitator: Lori Ebert
Group description:
– The Insight Dialogue (ID) KM group formed to provide an opportunity for those with experience with ID practice, including a good understanding the ID guidelines, to have an opportunity to practice together. The prerequisites for joining the group are an understanding of and practice with the six ID guidelines and experience practicing ID.
– The group is led each month by one of the members who has volunteered to facilitate. Volunteering to facilitate the group is optional. Facilitating offers the opportunity to deepen understanding of ID practice and the Buddha’s teachings by developing contemplations from the teachings and integrating those with instruction in one or more of the guidelines.
Understanding ID Guidelines and ID Experience:
This background can be met in various ways, including, but not limited to, at least one of the following:
(a) Attending an Insight Dialogue retreat of 5 days or longer.
(b) Practicing ID at Triangle Insight Wednesday evening gatherings for at least 6 months and reading Gregory Kramer’s book, Insight Dialogue: The Interpersonal Path to Freedom.
(c) Participating in the eight-week Interpersonal Mindfulness Program.
KM-Questionnaire:
If you have the Insight Dialogue background noted above and would like to join the KM Group, please send a KM-Questionnaire to Sarah Tillis, KM Coordinator. Please include a description of your experience with Insight Dialogue.
Meeting time and frequency: The first Sunday of each month, 9 am – 11am
Length of each meeting: To have adequate practice time, the meetings will follow the model of Phyllis’s Wednesday night sessions of 2 hours.
Location: Durham
Group size: Maximum of 15
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Chapel Hill-Carrboro KM Group: Has a waiting list
Group organizers: Tom Howlett and Sarah Tillis
Group description:
– The intentions of this group are to deepen our understanding of the dharma, develop greater insight into the conditioned patterns that hinder us, and provide inspiration for our daily practice.
– The development of trust and intimacy is essential to this process and to our sharing openly and caringly, including experiences that arise within the group. This will allow us to open our hearts and share our truth with greater wisdom and compassion.
– In our discussions, we will follow Triangle Insight’s Mindful Sharing Guidelines, which we will review at each meeting.
Format: We begin with a period of meditation, followed by a period of discussion, and end with brief meditation and metta. Discussions include readings and dharma podcasts, and we’ll explore our practice experiences on and off the cushion.
Attendance:
– While all of us may need to miss meetings from time to time, a commitment to regular attendance is important for group development and process.
– If a member decides not to continue with the group, s/he will let the group know this. We ask that s/he consider coming to group to terminate with the group, and we support the member’s doing what will be most helpful for her or him at that time.
Meeting time and frequency: 1st and 3rd Sunday mornings, 9:30-11:30 am
Length of each meeting: 2 hours
Location: Carrboro
Group size: Maximum of 10
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Raleigh KM Group: Has a waiting list
Group Organizers: Etta Barksdale and Karen Stevens
Group Description and Agreements:
The intentions of this group are to deepen our understanding of the dharma and provide inspiration for our daily practice. This will be supported by the development of trust and intimacy, which will allow us to share more openly and deeply. All those who join should be willing to support the spiritual growth of members of the group. Our KM group operates by these Group Agreements.
Group Format:
– Group meetings include: 20 minutes of meditation; review of Mindful Sharing Guidelines; check-in of “how’s your practice/how’s your life”; dharma discussion based on the group’s chosen piece; and then closing meditation and group business check-in.
– Before joining, new members should be familiar with this format.
Attendance:
While all of us may need to miss meetings from time to time, a commitment to weekly attendance is important for group development and process.
Decision to Leave Group:
If a member decides to leave the group, s/he will let the group know. We encourage the member to attend KM for a final sit, as a way of honoring the journey we have taken together. However, we support the member’s doing what will be most helpful for her or him at that time.
Experience Level:
All levels of experience are welcome.
Meeting time and frequency: The group meets weekly on Sunday evening.
Length of each meeting: 2 hours
Location: Raleigh
Group size: 12
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Secular Buddhism KM Group: Study Group: Has a waiting list
Group organizer: Justin Adams
Group administrator: Keith Johnson
Group description:
– We are a peer-led Kalyana Mitta group exploring Buddhism as informed by science and modern thought. We’re actively seeking others also interested in exploring this topic while sharing experiences, strengthening their practice, and getting to know other sangha members.
– Our current project is to discuss Emptiness: A Practical Guide for Meditators by Guy Armstrong and listen to an accompanying series of dharma talks by Mark Nunberg.
– Previous books discussed by the group have been After Buddhism: Rethinking the Dharma for a Secular Age by Stephen Batchelor, Don’t Take Your Life Personally by Ajahn Sumedho, and Why Buddhism Is True by Robert Wright.
Group Format:
– We open with a short period of meditation, discuss the readings, videos and talks, and share our own reflections. We close with a short period of meditation.
– During meetings we will follow Triangle Insight’s Mindful Sharing Guidelines and Secular Buddhism KM Group Agreements. Members will be reminded to review these documents periodically, and new members are encouraged to review them when considering joining the group.
– This is a peer group, and we share responsibility for group facilitation. The administrator is responsible for starting and ending the meeting, informing members of the agenda, and adhering to that agenda.
Attendance:
– While all of us may need to miss meetings from time to time, a commitment to regular attendance is important for group development and process.
– If a member decides not to continue with the group, s/he will let the group know this. We ask that s/he consider coming to group to terminate with the group, and we support the member’s doing what will be most helpful for her or him at that time.
Meeting time and frequency: The second Sunday of each month, 3 pm – 5 pm
Length of each meeting: 2 hours
Location: Durham
Group size: Maximum of 10
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