List of Kalyana Mitta Groups

We currently have five Kalyana Mitta (KM) Groups. Detailed descriptions are below. Two groups have openings for new members:
– Chapel Hill-Carrboro
– Insight Dialogue
The following groups have a waiting list:
– Durham Young Adults
– Raleigh
– Secular Dharma
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If you’re interested in joining a group, being on a waiting list, or starting a new group, please send a KM-Questionnaire to Sarah Tillis, KM Coordinator at [email protected]. Please also send Sarah any questions or suggestions.
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Chapel Hill-Carrboro KM Group: Has openings
Group organizers: Tom Howlett and Sarah Tillis
Group description:
– The intentions of this group are to deepen our understanding of the dharma, develop greater insight into the conditioned patterns that hinder us, and provide inspiration for our daily practice.
– The development of trust and intimacy is essential to this process and to our sharing openly and caringly, including experiences that arise within the group. This will allow us to open our hearts and share our truth with greater wisdom and compassion.
– In our discussions, we will follow Triangle Insight’s Mindful Sharing Guidelines, which we will review at each meeting.
Format: We begin with a period of meditation, followed by a period of discussion, and end with brief meditation and metta. Discussions include readings and dharma podcasts, and we’ll explore our practice experiences on and off the cushion.
Attendance:
– While all of us may need to miss meetings from time to time, a commitment to regular attendance is important for group development and process.
– If a member decides not to continue with the group, s/he will let the group know this. We ask that s/he consider coming to group to terminate with the group, and we support the member’s doing what will be most helpful for her or him at that time.
Meeting time and frequency: 1st and 3rd Sunday mornings, 9:30-11:30 am
Length of each meeting: 2 hours
Location: Carrboro
Group size: Maximum of 10
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Durham Young Adults KM Group: Has a waiting list
Group organizer: Emily Griffith Burke
Group description:
We are a group of self-identified young adult meditators. We have formal meetings biweekly where we practice and discuss the Dharma, and we cultivate community between meetings via GroupMe and informal social gatherings. Through our time together we intend to cultivate mindfulness of both the internal and external experience, and share openly via Triangle Insight’s Mindful Sharing Guidelines.  In our discussions we focus on the intersections of Buddhism, mindfulness, and our personal everyday lives.
Group Format:
– Rotating facilitator
– Read the Mindful Sharing Guidelines aloud
– Meditation (varying lengths, usually 15-20 minutes)
– Discussion
–Closing/Metta
Attendance:
– While all of us may need to miss meetings from time to time, a commitment to regular attendance is important for group development and process.
Meeting time and frequency: 1st and 3rd Sundays, 1:30 – 3:30 pm
Location: Members’ homes, primarily in Durham
Group size: Maximum of 10
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Insight Dialogue KM Group: Has openings
Group facilitator: Lori Ebert
Group description:
– The Insight Dialogue (ID) KM group formed to provide an opportunity for those with experience with ID practice, including a good understanding the ID guidelines, to have an opportunity to practice together. The prerequisites for joining the group are an understanding of and practice with the six ID guidelines and experience practicing ID.
– The group is led each month by one of the members who has volunteered to facilitate. Volunteering to facilitate the group is optional. Facilitating offers the opportunity to deepen understanding of ID practice and the Buddha’s teachings by developing contemplations from the teachings and integrating those with instruction in one or more of the guidelines.
Understanding ID Guidelines and ID Experience:
This background can be met in various ways, including, but not limited to, at least one of the following:
(a) Attending an Insight Dialogue retreat of 5 days or longer.
(b) Practicing ID at Triangle Insight Wednesday evening gatherings for at least 6 months and reading Gregory Kramer’s book, Insight Dialogue: The Interpersonal Path to Freedom.
(c) Participating in the eight-week Interpersonal Mindfulness Program.
KM-Questionnaire:
If you have the Insight Dialogue background noted above and would like to join the KM Group, please send a KM-Questionnaire to Sarah Tillis, KM Coordinator. Please include a description of your experience with Insight Dialogue.
Meeting time and frequency: The first Sunday of each month, 9 am – 11am
Length of each meeting: To have adequate practice time, the meetings will follow the model of Phyllis’s Wednesday night sessions of 2 hours.
Location: Durham
Group size: Maximum of 15
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Raleigh KM Group: Has a waiting list
Group Organizers: Etta Barksdale and Karen Stevens
Group Description and Agreements:
The intentions of this group are to deepen our understanding of the dharma and provide inspiration for our daily practice. This will be supported by the development of trust and intimacy, which will allow us to share more openly and deeply. All those who join should be willing to support the spiritual growth of members of the group. Our KM group operates by these Group Agreements.
Group Format:
– Group meetings include: 20 minutes of meditation; review of Mindful Sharing Guidelines; check-in of “how’s your practice/how’s your life”; dharma discussion based on the group’s chosen piece; and then closing meditation and group business check-in.
– Before joining, new members should be familiar with this format.
Attendance:
While all of us may need to miss meetings from time to time, a commitment to weekly attendance is important for group development and process.
Decision to Leave Group:
If a member decides to leave the group, s/he will let the group know. We encourage the member to attend KM for a final sit, as a way of honoring the journey we have taken together. However, we support the member’s doing what will be most helpful for her or him at that time.
Experience Level:
All levels of experience are welcome.
Meeting time and frequency: The group meets weekly on Sunday evening.
Length of each meeting: 2 hours
Location: Raleigh
Group size: 12
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Secular Dharma KM Group: Has a waiting list
Group administrator: Keith Johnson
Group description:
– We’re a peer-led group that came together in 2016 to explore Buddhism from a secular perspective for the purpose of strengthening our practice. Secular for us has meant looking at the teachings of the Buddha and the concepts of the Dharma through the lens of modern science, philosophy, and history. We select a book to read over the course of several months, supplemented with related dharma talks. Our discussions center on sharing our individual perspectives on the readings/talks within the context of our personal experiences and practice. Our get-togethers have also served to build our mutual friendship and concern. Half-day retreats are scheduled as needed to plan upcoming studies, evaluate our format, and deepen fellowship.
– Past materials we’ve used:
After Buddhism: Rethinking the Dharma for a Secular Age by Stephen Batchelor;
Don’t Take Your Life Personally by Ajahn Sumedho;
Why Buddhism Is True by Robert Wright; and
Emptiness: A Practical Guide for Meditators by Guy Armstrong, and accompanied by a series of dharma talks by Mark Nunberg on the book.
Format:
– We open with a short period of silent meditation, followed by a facilitated discussion on the readings and talks, and close with a short metta meditation.
– As peer group, we share responsibilities for all administrative and core activities. Individual volunteers take turns facilitating meetings based on the agreed on topic. The administrator is responsible for time-keeping and communicating the agenda. One member handles rental of our meeting space, which is paid for by contributions from the group (varying between $4-7 per member per month).
– We will follow Triangle Insight’s Mindful Sharing Guidelines and Secular Dharma KM Group Agreements. New members are encouraged to review these when considering joining the group.
Attendance:
– Missing a meeting from time to time is hard to avoid, but we’ve agreed as a group to commit to regular attendance as this is essential for group development and process.
– If a member decides to leave the group, s/he should let the group know, preferably in person at a meeting.
Meeting time and frequency: The second Sunday of each month, 3 pm – 5 pm
Location: Durham
Group size: Maximum of 11
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