List of Kalyana Mitta Groups

New Sutta Study Group

We’ve formed a new KM Group based on studying and discussing the Buddhist suttas. If you’re interested or would like more information, please see the description below or contact Mike Hall at [email protected].

Current Groups

We currently have five Kalyana Mitta (KM) Groups. Detailed descriptions are below.
– Our Insight Dialogue, Raleigh, and Sutta Study groups have openings for new members.
– Our Chapel Hill-Carrboro group has a waiting list.
– Our Secular Dharma group is in the process of re-forming and will be open to new members in the near future.

If you’re interested in joining a group, being on a waiting list, or starting a new group, please send a KM-Questionnaire to Sarah Tillis, KM Coordinator at [email protected]. Please also send Sarah any questions or suggestions.

Chapel Hill-Carrboro KM Group: Has a waiting list
Group organizers: Tom Howlett and Sarah Tillis
Group description:
– The intentions of this group are to deepen our understanding of the dharma, develop greater insight into the conditioned patterns that hinder us, and provide inspiration for our daily practice.
– The development of trust and intimacy is essential to this process and to our sharing openly and caringly, including experiences that arise within the group. This will allow us to open our hearts and share our truth with greater wisdom and compassion.
– In our discussions, we follow Triangle Insight’s Mindful Sharing Guidelines, which we read at each meeting.
Format: We begin with a period of meditation, followed by group discussion. Discussions include readings and dharma podcasts, and we explore our practice experiences on and off the cushion.
Attendance:
– While all of us may need to miss meetings from time to time, a commitment to regular attendance is important for group development and process.
– If a member decides not to continue with the group, s/he will let the group know this. We ask that s/he consider coming to group to terminate with the group, and we support the member’s doing what will be most helpful for them at that time.
Meeting time:
– While meeting on Zoom, we meet every Sunday morning, 9:30 – 11:00 am.
– When we were meeting in person, we met 1st and 3rd Sunday mornings, 9:30-11:30 am.
Location: We are currently meeting by Zoom. When the group decides it’s safe to return to meeting in person, we will meet in the Chapel Hill-Carrboro area.
Group size: Maximum of 10

Insight Dialogue KM Group: Has openings
Group facilitator: Lori Ebert
Group description:
– The Insight Dialogue (ID) KM group formed to provide an opportunity for those with experience with ID practice, including a good understanding the ID guidelines, to have an opportunity to practice together. The prerequisites for joining the group are an understanding of and practice with the six ID guidelines and experience practicing ID.
– The group is led each month by one of the members who has volunteered to facilitate. Volunteering to facilitate the group is optional. Facilitating offers the opportunity to deepen understanding of ID practice and the Buddha’s teachings by developing contemplations from the teachings and integrating those with instruction in one or more of the guidelines.
Experience Needed – Understanding ID Guidelines and ID Experience:
This background can be met in various ways, including, but not limited to, at least one of the following:
(a) Some experience with Insight Dialogue and discussion with one of the facilitators.
(b) Attending an Insight Dialogue retreat.
KM-Questionnaire:
If you’re interested in joining the group and have the Insight Dialogue background noted above, or you would like to speak with one of the facilitators, please send a KM-Questionnaire to Sarah Tillis, KM Coordinator. Please include a description of your experience with Insight Dialogue.
Meeting time: The second Sunday of each month, 9 am – 10:30 am
Length of each meeting: To have adequate practice time the meetings will follow the model of Phyllis Hicks’ Wednesday night sessions at Triangle Insight.
Location: Durham, when meeting in person. Currently meeting online.
Group size: Maximum of 15

Raleigh KM Group: Has openings
Group Organizers: Etta Barksdale and Karen Stevens
Group Description and Agreements:
The intentions of this group are to deepen our understanding of the dharma and provide inspiration for our daily practice. This will be supported by the development of trust and intimacy, which will allow us to share more openly and deeply. All those who join should be willing to support the spiritual growth of members of the group. Our KM group operates by these Group Agreements.
Group Format:
– Group meetings include: 20 minutes of meditation; review of Mindful Sharing Guidelines; check-in of “how’s your practice/how’s your life”; dharma discussion based on the group’s chosen piece; and then closing meditation and group business check-in.
– Before joining, new members should be familiar with this format.
Attendance:
While all of us may need to miss meetings from time to time, a commitment to weekly attendance is important for group development and process.
Decision to Leave Group:
If a member decides to leave the group, s/he will let the group know. We encourage the member to attend KM for a final sit, as a way of honoring the journey we have taken together. However, we support the member’s doing what will be most helpful for her or him at that time.
Experience Level:
All levels of experience are welcome.
Meeting time and frequency: The group meets weekly on Sunday evening.
Length of each meeting: 2 hours
Location: Raleigh – We’re currently meeting by Zoom.
Group size: Maximum of 14

Secular Dharma KM Group: We are in the process of re-forming and will be open to new members in the near future.
Group organizer: Justin Adams
Group administrator: Karen Moorman
Group description:
– We are a peer-led Kalyana Mitta group exploring Buddhism as informed by science and modern thought. As spiritual friends, we share the experience of our individual practices and discuss readings and talks, while growing our sense of community. Previous discussions have covered works by Guy Armstrong, Stephen Batchelor, Gil Fronsdal and others. The group is also exploring Rick Hanson’s Neurodharma, Norman Fischer’s The World Could be Otherwise and Mindfulness: Ancient Wisdom Meets Modern Psychology by Christina Feldman and Willem Kuyken.
Group Format:
– We open with a short period of meditation, discuss the readings, videos and talks, and share our own reflections. We close with a short period of meditation and metta.
– During meetings we follow Triangle Insight’s Mindful Sharing Guidelines and Secular Dharma KM Group Agreements. Members will be reminded to review these documents periodically, and new members are encouraged to review them when considering joining the group.
– This is a peer group, and we share responsibility for group facilitation. The administrator is responsible for starting and ending the meeting, informing members of the agenda, and adhering to that agenda. When meeting in person, we also share the cost of rent for the room at Eno River Unitarian Universalist Fellowship (ERUUF).
Attendance:
– While all of us may need to miss meetings from time to time, a commitment to regular attendance is important for group development and process.
– If a member decides not to continue with the group, they will let the group know this. We ask that they consider coming to group to terminate with the group, and we support the member’s doing what will be most helpful for them at that time.
Meeting time: The second Sunday of each month, 2 pm – 4 pm
Location: During the COVID-19 pandemic we’ve been meeting by Zoom.  When conditions change and group members decide it’s safe to meet in person, we’ll return to having in-person meetings at the Durham Eno River Unitarian Universalist Fellowship (ERUUF).  At that time we might also have the option of connecting to the in-person meetings by Zoom.
Group size: Maximum of 9

Sutta Study KM Group: Has openings
Group organizer: Mike Hall
Group administrator: To be determined
Group description:
– We are a peer-led Kalyana Mitta group desiring to explore the suttas relevant to early Buddhism, and possibly other Buddhist traditions.
– Our first reading will be The Buddha before Buddhism (aka “The Books of Eights”) by Gil Fronsdal.
Group Format:
– The meeting will start with a short period of meditation and a review of Triangle Insight’s Mindful Sharing Guidelines, followed by open discussion of assigned readings, videos, and talks. The format will evolve as we gain more experience being together.
– This a peer-led group. We will take turns moderating meetings. The group will make decisions collectively on future topics and materials.
Attendance:
– While all of us may need to miss meetings from time to time, a commitment to regular attendance is important for group development and process.
– A member should promptly let the rest of the group know if it’s not possible to continue attending. Direct communication with the group about a decision to discontinue is highly preferred.
Meeting time: The fourth Sunday of each month, 7 pm – 9 pm
Location: Meetings will be by Zoom until further notice.
Group size: To be determined